Any parent knows from the second you conceive and spread the word every one has advice. After awhile you learn to smile and shrug most of it off. Afterall nine times out of ten they have good intentions. Here are just a few of the things I heard:
You need to breastfeed
You should NOT breastfeed (yep they contra-indicate each other all the time btw)
never let them sleep with you
Babies always need their socks
drink a beer every day for morning sickness (yes someone gave me this advice, no it did not make the best advice list.)
****But one piece of advice I was given regarding discipline was from my dad. He told me when my son was very young to :
“Remember the punishment must always fit the crime, because
regardless you HAVE to follow through. “
Now sticking to this has bit me in the behind a few times. Every parent that follows through on their word knows what I mean! That moment when you are doing 15 things at once and your child does something they shouldn’t, and you blurt no TV for a month. Yeah that becomes the longest month of your life, especially if it’s in the dead of winter! This then becomes your very own punishment for being so harsh, but stick to it.
My son is eight now and knows when I say it, I mean it. He does not ask me fifteen times to do something if I say NO the first. However, if I say “maybe” or “we’ll see” yep he continues to ask (can’t blame the kid for trying). I think he has developed this because I try very hard to always follow through, but I also try to give him a warning first. Usually it is something like; if you do not do your homework before asking to do fun things, then you lose TV, DS, 4 Wheeler, or favorite toy. It works majority of the time with a warning, but if not bam I have to follow through.
One day he got extra sassy with me. In his defense he was pooped, but he said some unkind words. His punishment: No electronics for a week, and he had to spend the week doing kind things for other people. I woke up the next morning to breakfast in bed (his wife will thank me some day), he then buttered me up for about three days, did some random acts of kindness, and spent an evening helping at grandmas house. He handled it very well, that was about three months ago, and he hasn’t really got lippy since. What a lucky mommy I am!
This was our back to school shopping day…Yep, I was the lady in the hoodie we all have our moments 😉 but boy we had fun!